Don’t get me wrong; I am scared of the future, sure, who isn’t. What keeps me even-keeled is the fact of living in the moment. Were at an age in time where we fake our feelings because of what people would think or say to us or behind our backs.
Our teacher told us to open up in the last blog post of the class. What makes you tick? Talk about life. Give advice. Maybe a heartfelt letter. Our teacher proceeded to ask, “if money were no object, what would you do in life?”
I kind of stared at the ground for a few seconds blank, my mind was all over the map, until I realized; I have no idea. Everyone was quiet for almost a full 60 seconds as I think the teacher wanted us to just think, you could hear a pin drop in this room and I don’t know if anyone truly knew. Well here it is. Now that I’ve hit submit I am officially graduated with my advertising degree from Michigan State University.
If money were no object, what would you do?! Be a musician? Write books? World Traveler? Professional athlete? Really, all this question did to me was get me thinking back on my years growing up all the way through college.
I’m obviously going to miss the adrenaline rush of playing in front of a sold out rink at MSU and all the memories I was blessed with such as scoring my first goal at Joe Louis Arena vs. Michigan. Playing in front of the largest hockey crowd recorded at MSU vs. Michigan of 7,225. The sweet YouTube video someone made of me I will watch forever, probably cry about it when all is said and done and I’m no longer playing. I could go on forever and all these were priceless but there’s much more to life than hockey.
If you noticed one thing about the previous statements, all of those things didn’t involve money for me. If money were no object, I truly still have no idea what I would do but what I do know is memories and how people have made me feel in life is what means more than money and anything else to me.
College provided the best times of my life and I wont be the only one to say that. I mean, at my graduation ceremony, I saw people passing a flask down the row and at that moment in time I began to shed a tear. Not because I was sad I wasn’t in that row, but because of everything I will miss about college. One takeaway from college more than any is this; how you treat other people, not your money, status or accomplishments, will be the most enduring impact you can leave on people. “Its not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” Everyone is perfect and beautiful; it just takes the right person to find it in you. If we judged the turtle on its ability to run, no one would like the turtle.
One day when you’re close to someone during their final moments in life and maybe even holding their hand at their final breath, they won’t ask to see the awards or accomplishments they had in life, but a moment in their life where you made them feel special or even just laugh. I’m 22 and often find myself talking to someone and randomly changing the topic to, “remember when you…” because at that moment in time all I cared about was our relationship. That is what life’s about. It’s all about the scenery and not the route.
One thing to always remember, based off one of my all-time favorite movies, The Pursuit of Happiness, we are only promised the pursuit of happiness, which is measured by love, friendship and freedom. Everything is relative and has to be learned in comparison. If you want to be happy, just compare your current position not with what is better, but with what would be worse. There is someone out there who would be the happiest person in the world if they were in your shoes. But in the world we live in today, people are afraid to look at the big picture and instead just compare themselves to the people around them.
Want something, ask. Upset or sad, vent. A new thing I do is I keep a notepad by my bed because at night when I am falling asleep is when my mind wanders and all my deep thoughts happen. After collecting so many thoughts night after night, it is pretty cool to think of the ups and downs one has on a daily basis and where your mind takes you.
Do what you can to make someone’s day. Life is about enjoying the music and dancing while the song is playing. Live in the moment and enjoy the journey. You’ll have your ups and downs but how you handle and make the most of it will be the greatest takeaway.
“Its funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back everything is different.” – C.S. Lewis
Some of my favorite quotes
“If you want to give the devil a nervous breakdown, get up every day and be as happy as you can possibly be!” – Stacey Hitch
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” – Henry David Thoreau
“If you feel that you have both feet planted on level ground, then the university has failed you.” – Robert Goheen
“In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins: cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later.” – Harold Geneen
“Life is about finding the joy in all the chaos” – Unknown